Whose Day Is It?
Remember this is your wedding so the day should be about what you
and your partner want.
It
is impossible to please everyone when organizing a wedding so don't try. Please the two
most important people, yourself and your partner.
If you really want to avoid
upsetting people try compromising with them over some details of the wedding.
Planning
Start planning right away. Use a folder/exercise book/index cards
or a computer program to list everything you can think of relative to your wedding -and
don't forget the honeymoon. List dates when jobs need to be completed by and check them
off once done. Keep a record of everything: deposits, receipts, phone calls and written
confirmation of any bookings.
Budget
Work out a budget for your wedding and once set try not to exceed
it by more than the smallest of margins. Wedding costs have a habit of blowing out of
proportion.
If you
find it hard to keep under budget look for areas where you can economize. Could you borrow
a friend's car instead of hiring one? A wedding doesn't need to expensive to be wonderful.
Share the Workload
Once you have a list of everything that needs to be done before
the wedding day, enlist all the help and support you can. Ask your attendants, family and
close friends to help with various tasks. People love a wedding and love to be involved so
let them.
Problems
Keep problems in proportion. It is not worth upsetting yourself,
and everyone else, over minor details. If the bridesmaids' shoes are one shade lighter in
color than you wanted it isn't the end of the world. Learn some relaxation techniques or
have a soothing massage if it all gets too much.
Enjoy the lead up
The time leading up to your wedding is a very special time
but it will go very quickly. Don't spend it going crazy over wedding preparations or
arguing with everyone within your radius. Don't say things you may later regret. If you
feel yourself losing your cool walk away for a while and calm down.
Take Time Out
Each week take time out with your partner and agree not to
mention the word 'wedding' or anything related to weddings. Chill out with a a tasty meal
and each other's company.
The Big Day
Finally, enjoy every moment of your wedding day. It may come
along but once in your lifetime so savor every moment of it.
