I once stopped behind several cars in an intersection. The
winter
weather was icy cold and a strong artic wind blew
relentlessly.
Ahead
of me a young woman stood alongside the street rubbing her
bare hands
together and dancing in place to keep warm. Beside her
rested a sign
that read, "I have a baby and no food." She was obviously
crying,
likely from the pain of the cold wind.
Homeless and unemployed people
are a common sight in many of our larger cities, and most
motorists drive by without offering assistance. They have no
doubt been taught that giving money fosters a dependent
lifestyle, or the ready cash may be used to purchase alcohol
or another substance rather than the food it was intended
for.
Like me, they may have been taught that one should give
to a
local charity or through one's church, as these institutions
can help
those in need far more effectively.
This, of course, is true, but I am reminded of the college
students
who encountered a homeless man on the sidewalk. One of the
students
took a couple of dollars from his wallet and handed it to
the
unfortunate stranger. His friend commented, "Why did you do
that?
He's just going to spend it on booze or drugs." The student
answered,
"Yeah...like we're not!"
As I waited for the light to turn, I felt conflicted about
that young
woman. Whether or not I should give money, she was obviously
in need.
And whether or not she actually had a baby really didn't
seem to
matter. I gave up guessing people's motives and analyzing
their
stories long ago. It was cold. She was cold. And she
obviously felt
she had to be there.
What should I do? Give her money? What was best?
As I wrestled with these questions, the window rolled down
from the
car in front of me and a hand shot out holding a warm pair
of gloves.
The driver took her own gloves off and gave them to the
shivering
woman. I saw the young woman mouth the words "Thank you" as
a broad
smile lit up her face.
As I debated, somebody else helped. As I hesitated, somebody
else
acted. As I tried to decide the BEST way to assist, somebody
else
just did what she could. As I did nothing, she did
something.
I made myself a pledge that day to always do SOMETHING.
Whether it is
big or small, just do something. Something is almost always
better
than nothing!
Educator Leo Buscaglia said, "Too often we underestimate the
power of a touch, a smile, a kind
word, a listening ear, an honest compliment,
or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the
potential to turn a life around."
Don't underestimate what you CAN do! Each of us
can do something, and the something you do may be
more important than you'll ever
know.

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