Your Girlfriend was Honest; Respect Her for That

DR. WALLACE: Jade and I have been dating for about six months. We have had some really great times. But last week she told me that she no longer wanted to date me because she wanted the opportunity to date others. She also said she no longer had any romantic feelings for me.

This really hurt. I know that in time we could have worked things out. I feel terrible that we will wind up wasting six months of our lives. What should I do? — Brett, Orlando, Fla.

BRETT: Don't look at your relationship as a waste of time. Both of you gained much from the experience. Remember the great times you shared with Jade and move on with your life. Jade was honest and forthright on why she wants to end the relationship. Respect her for this.

MY GRANDCHILDREN'S FATHER IS A BUM

DR. WALLACE: My teenage daughter has two children out of wedlock. I think that they should carry her maiden name, but she disagrees. Her boyfriend is the father of both children. I feel it's disgraceful to give my grandchildren the name of a bum. Your response will be appreciated. — Mom, Hackensack, N.J.

MOM: The final decision for the last name of your daughter's children rests solely with your daughter. It matters not your opinion of the children's father.

OPENING YOUR BIG MOUTH WAS A MISTAKE

DR. WALLACE: I'm a 20-year-old female and my best friend is my 20-year-old male cousin. We were closer than brother and sister. When I was dating my former fiance, I stayed close to Albert, even including him in some of my social functions when my fiance was present.

My fiance and I broke up three months ago, at about the same time Albert started dating Hannah, who happens to have a terrible reputation and a horrible personality. Ever since they started dating, I rarely hear from Albert.

Last week, I went to where Albert works and told him about Hannah's past sexual activity and how she was a witch. I know all this because my brother dated her for a while. My brother wound up with a sexually transmitted disease and I think Hannah was the cause. It's true that my brother was seeing other girls while dating Hannah, but he saw her more. When I brought up the STD incident, Albert told me to leave — and I did.

Now he refuses to take my phone calls or answer my e-mails. I don't think I was out of place warning Albert about the evils of Hannah. As a good friend, all I was doing was enlightening him so he could end his relationship before he got hurt. I want Albert's friendship to return!

Should I wait for him to apologize, or should I confront him one more time at his employment to find out if he has changed his mind about me? — Nameless, Phoenix.

NAMELESS: Albert doesn't owe you anything, and that includes an apology. Opening your big mouth about what someone told you about Hannah's past shows your ignorance and lack of sensitivity. It's you who should be apologizing.

When you come to your senses and realize this, send Albert an e-mail letting him know that you made a huge mistake talking about Hannah's past. Tell him that you miss his friendship and ask him to call or e-mail. For your sake, I hope he has a forgiving heart and decides to contact you. But don't count on it.

Dr. Robert Wallace welcomes questions from readers. Although he is unable to reply to all of them individually, he will answer as many as possible in this column. E-mail him at rwallace@galesburg.net. To find out more about Dr. Robert Wallace and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.

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